Emotional Abuse – The signs and what to do

peterjbuckley | July 8, 2014 in Articles of Interest,Health and Psychology | Comments (0)

Does your partner degrade or belittle you? Publish every detail of your relationship online? If you think that just because you aren’t being physically abused then nothing is wrong, think again. Ever since the April 2010 article You Carry the Cure In Your Own Heart, I have been interested in how emotional abuse can have devastating consequences on both physical and mental health. This subject has created more feedback than just about anything on the site. Where do you start to look for help?

Who's hurting who?

Who’s hurting who?

While emotional or psychological abuse may be difficult to pinpoint, examples abound. Here are some characteristics:

  • Using money as a lever to control you
  • Making you afraid of consequences by using looks, gestures or actions
  • Distorted self-image, can fool themselves too
  • Controlling by minimizing, denying and blaming
  • Making light of their behaviour and not taking your concerns about it seriously
  • Regularly criticizing you, calling you names, shouting at you, using sarcasm
  • Unpredictable, putting you down or humiliating you in private, but acting charming in public, or fluctuating between the two
  •  Cultivating a caring persona with others important to them, in other words, two-faced.
  • Withholding approval, appreciation or affection as punishment.

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The Church wishes to apologize: Part two

peterjbuckley | April 11, 2014 in Articles of Interest,Social Science | Comments (0)

Part two – Sexual abuse, paedophilia and the priesthood

BBC News reports Pope Francis has asked for forgiveness for the “evil” damage to children caused by sexual abusers in the clergy. Pope Francis and his predecessor

Pope Francis and his predecessor

The Pope said the sexual abuse was “moral damage carried out by men of the Church”, and that ‘sanctions’ would be imposed. The statement, made in a meeting with a child rights group, is described as his strongest on the issue so far. The facts show the Church does not see that, evil as paedophilia is, the lack-lustre response to it is so damaging. Last month, Pope Francis strongly defended the Roman Catholic Church’s record on tackling sexual abuse by priests, following UN criticism. The Vatican had refused a request from the UN’s Committee on the Rights of the Child (CRC) for data on abuse, on the grounds that it only released such information if requested to do so by another country as part of legal proceedings. Surely each member country gives the UN such a mandate?

 

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The threatened California Redwood with a difference

peterjbuckley | March 28, 2014 in Articles of Interest,Natural World | Comments (0)

cotati redwood

Along with a colleague, I would welcome wider planting and practical use of timbers such as the California Redwood (Sequoia sempervirens) in the United Kingdom. The more we learn of these trees the more amazing they are to us.

For decades, a lone redwood has grown near the railroad tracks that run through the small city of Cotati, California. It was little noticed by most people—until officials announced that the tree had to be cut down to make way for a new transit system. Now arborists, researchers, and historians have banded together to save it.

The tree is a rarity called a chimeric albino redwood. Mixed among its normal green needles are ghostly patches of yellowish white needles. Albino redwoods have been documented since at least 1866, but they are very unusual. Amador County arborist Tom Stapleton and Colorado State University botany student Zane Moore have documented only 230 of the trees in California. Read more »»


Anonymous (2011) DVD

peterjbuckley | March 2, 2014 in Art and Literature,Film and TV,Reviews | Comments (0)

Anonymous [DVD] [2011]  Rating: ★★★★★

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Set amidst the treacherous, shifting sands of Elizabethan England,  Anonymous brings to life an issue that for 400 years has intrigued academics, actors and theatre lovers… Who was the author of the plays credited to William Shakespeare? Anonymous poses one possible answer, focusing on a time when political intrigue, illicit romances in the Royal Court, and the schemes of powerful nobles were fearlessly exposed in the powder-keg that was the London stage.

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The Luhimba Project

peterjbuckley | February 23, 2014 in Articles of Interest,Social Science | Comments (0)

The Luhimba Project   (UK Registered Charity 1084849)   

Luhimba Project on Facebook

LUHIMBA is a remote village in rural southern Tanzania, East Africa. It currently has a population of 3,500 villagers who live in scattered clusters of dwellings. Their houses are of two main types – mud huts with grass roofs, or constructions of home-produced bricks with corrugated sheet roofing.

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There is no mains electricity or piped water to the village.  The only electricity is provided by generators and solar panels on a few of the houses and community buildings. Otherwise lighting is by oil lamps. The villagers fetch water from pumps. Untreated surface water was freely drunk, with consequent high rates of water borne disease particularly amongst children.

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Rudolf Diesel 1858- 1913

peterjbuckley | February 22, 2014 in An appreciation of..,Health and Psychology | Comments (0)

Rudolf Diesel

The first production passenger car equipped with a diesel engine was the Mercedes 260 D (1936), widely used as a taxi due to its efficiency and reliability. Until that time, diesel engines had been considered too slow and heavy compared to the automobile petrol engine. In industry and in trucks, trains and buses, the diesel engine was well established. However, it was many years until the gradual disuse of steam engines. At the time they were seen as  inefficient, heavy, and complicated in operation. Diesel engines, named after inventor Rudolf Christian Karl Diesel, found their way into every sector of the transport industry.

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The Set of the Sails (1949)

peterjbuckley | February 16, 2014 in An appreciation of..,Reviews,Social Science | Comments (0)

Rating: ★★★★★

I like brand new, shiny books as much as anyone. But every now and again an old, scruffy paperback a minute away from the rubbish bin proves to be a real gem. Such was ‘The Set of the Sails, the 1949 autobiography of Alan Villiers (1903- 1982).

    The Set of the Sails (Pan paperback-condition as found)
The Set of the Sails (Pan paperback-condition as found)

Alan Villiers was the second son of Australian poet and union leader Leon Villiers. The young Villiers grew up on the docks watching the merchant ships come in and out of the Port of Melbourne and longed for the day on which he too could sail out to sea. Read more »»


Thomas Quick: The Making of a Serial Killer (2013)

peterjbuckley | February 10, 2014 in Health and Psychology,Reviews | Comments (0)

Råstam had one question for Sweden’s most abominable serial killer. And the answer turned out to be far more terrifying than the man himself . . .

Thomas Quick

Walter Mitty Syndrome  is a phrase occasionally used by psychiatrists and others in describing a person who prefers a fantasy world to reality, particularly if others consider him a failure, but when the potential for real harm results from his behaviour, it becomes a whole lot more sinister than the fictional stories.

“The desire to want to be somebody important without expending any effort, or making up stories to get attention is actually fairly common,” says Dr Colin Gill, a psychologist and expert on the nature of identity. “Of course, we only hear of high-profile cases such as these, when people get caught out. I suspect there may well be thousands of people telling these kinds of lies or leading double lives.”

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Dating Israel’s first Camels

peterjbuckley | February 8, 2014 in Archaeology,Biblical Interest | Comments (0)

Radio-carbon dating of camel bones discovered in the Arava Valley has challenged Biblical accuracy, that is, according to reports based on an article published in Tel Aviv the journal of Tel Aviv University‘s  Department of Archaeology and Near Eastern Cultures. In recent weeks, this has, as might be expected, attracted media attention.

 Arabian camels

The claim is also made that this anachronism is direct proof that the texts were compiled perhaps centuries after the events described..

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The Marine Baths, Aberystwyth

peterjbuckley | January 28, 2014 in Archaeology,Wales, Scotland and Ireland | Comments (0)

During the tidal storm of 3rd and 4th January 2014, a breach in the front of the sea wall below the Bathrock shelter revealed the remains of basement walls relating to a historic bath house.

The Marine Baths were built in 1810 by Doctor Rice Williams at the north end of Marine Terrace. By this time salt water bathing had acquired a reputation for curing a wealth of medical ills, and bath-houses were being built for those who did not want to or could not brave the open sea.


Within the bastion of the promenade wall, the remains of basement walls belonging to the Marine Baths have been revealed. Cast-iron pipes ran far out into Cardigan Bay to ensure a supply of clean and sand-free saline water. Basement boilers heated the water for those wanting baths of a less invigorating nature.

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